about | Complexdani

I’m Dani — a complex trauma survivor, thought leader, changemaker, cycle breaker, community builder, CPTSD advocate, writer, and speaker. I’ve walked through chaos, faced it head-on, and turned it into purpose — and now I help others do the same.

I didn’t grow up with safety. I grew up in chaos — surrounded by alcoholism, abuse, violence, and silence. For years, I wore masks, numbed the pain, and pretended I was fine. On the outside, I looked successful; on the inside, I was unraveling.

There was no roadmap for healing from a lifetime of trauma, so I had to create my own. That journey wasn’t linear, pretty, or easy. It was gritty, raw, and terrifying at times. But it was also the most liberating thing I’ve ever done. I learned to stop surviving and start living. I learned to face the pain head-on, call out the bullshit narratives we’ve been fed about healing, and build a life where I didn’t have to shrink or hide.

As my healing deepened, it became clear — this was never just about me. It’s about making sure other survivors don’t feel as lost, alone, or silenced as I once did.

Today, my work is about creating what I once needed: spaces for truth, tools for regulation, resources that empower, and advocacy that pushes for real change.

I stand for survivors. I stand for truth. And I’ll keep building until the world understands trauma the way we live it.

Complex Dani is me — but it’s also so much bigger than me. It’s me embracing every complicated, messy layer of who I am. And it’s a reminder that we are all complex, layered, and human — and that’s not something to fix. It’s something to own.

I created Complex Dani to be a home for honesty, disruption, and healing out loud — so no survivor feels like they have to go through the chaos alone.

Tapping with Dani — born out of my own discovery of EFT as a tool to calm the chaos inside. I now teach others how to tap, release, and reclaim emotional balance.

The Healing and C-PTSD Community — a space I built to give survivors the connection and support I once wished for, where healing out loud is safe and celebrated.

The Healing and CPTSD Foundation — a nonprofit I founded to not only advocate for systemic trauma awareness but also to offer financial assistance, because healing requires breathing room.

Blog & Content Creation — Ongoing, raw reflections and educational content where I show up honestly and help others feel less alone in their healing.

Pick My Brain Sessions — One-on-one consulting calls where you can ask me anything about trauma healing, emotional regulation, navigating chaos, or starting your own trauma-informed work.

I believe in sharing the process, not just the finished product. Here’s what I’m building next:

The Trauma Directory — Coming soon: a trusted, carefully curated resource where survivors can finally find the right trauma-informed professionals without overwhelm.

The Trauma Entrepreneur Bootcamp — In development for survivors who want to build something meaningful from their lived experience, with guidance that honors both business strategy and healing.

The Fuckery of Trauma — Coming soon: a bold, unapologetic series calling out the messy, absurd, and WTF moments of trauma and healing we’re rarely allowed to talk about.

Upcoming Books + Memoire Series — Stay tuned for the stories and frameworks I wish I had when I started healing — raw, honest, and here to help you feel less alone.

Truth over comfort — always.
Healing out loud without apology.
Reminding you that being complex is not a flaw — it’s power.
Healing happens in community, not isolation.
Healing is not one size fits all — your path is yours.
Saying the hard things with honesty and care.
Holding compassion with clear boundaries.
Owning your story and standing unapologetically in it.
Disrupting toxic narratives around trauma and healing.

If you’re here, I hope you feel seen. I hope you feel less alone.

And I hope you find permission to be messy, loud, and complex — just like me.

I’m a visual observer for my partner — an FPV drone pilot (yep, the ones with the goggles and wild flips). Equal parts lookout and hype woman. Click here to take a ride with us!

I have two pitbulls, Blue and Lady — emotional support potatoes who fully believe they own the house (and honestly… they do).

I grew up in Upstate New York, spent a decade in the chaos of NYC, and now live in a quiet farm town — still New York, just a different pace.

I hate the dentist. Irrationally. Please don’t mention cleanings.

I’m weirdly obsessed with notebooks and lists. My life is organized chaos — but trust me, there’s a system under the mess.

I also have ADHD. The zillion open tabs, squirrel brain, and constant idea-chasing? all me.

My nervous system craves nature, long drives, and being alone.

I’m a recovering people-pleaser and professional fawner — finally learning to set boundaries without apology.

And most days I forget what I look like… but find comfort and grounding in mirrors.